Yesterday I worked on my Spiritual Life category and today we are working with my love relationships. Our relationships dictate our happiness, bad relationships create stress, negativity, pain, and sadness. We are all trying to get our needs met and all good relationships should meet everyone’s needs.

Relationships with our Partner

Think every aspect of your love life, build a mental equivalent of what you want so you can go out and get it. Let go of ridiculous beliefs and expectations, even one stupid belief will block you from a great love relationship. Do not expect rejection and heartbreaks. There is someone out there perfect for me, they are looking for me and they will find me. Define your beliefs and visions. Find an intense, romantic, passionate love relationship. Think about and talk about the exact relationship you want to have, create a love affair that will last a lifetime, define on every aspect of the relationship, decision making, sex, family building.

Love Relationships Premise

Your Premise refers to the foundational beliefs you hold about this category. What do you believe? What deeply held beliefs are shaping your life? Are your beliefs empowering? Do they move you at a deep level or are they holding you back? What is your Premise for this area of your life, or what would you like it to be?

1) My relationships help me grow, improve, be challenged, be supported, feel fulfilled, feel loved. These are relationships I can count on, people who are there for me when I need them the most.

2) Extraordinary relationships require extraordinary people. I am extraordinary and deserve someone extraordinary. I know there are many people who I can have a perfect relationship with, they are on their way to me. I make myself an ideal partner, I turn myself into what I am looking to find. I am a great ingredient, functional person, with clear vision and desires. I bring the best to the party. I am the best person I can be.

3) Love requires actions. I learn how to love my partners, I take action to show people I love that I care. I am always kind, I am reliable, I am dedicated to my relationship. I pay attention to the little things, that light up my partners.

4) My partner is my best friend and favorite person in the world. I give to this relationship, as I give to myself. My partner and I are a team, with love we conquer everything. We know when to be together and when to be apart, together, apart, we are beautiful.

Love Relationships Vision

Your Vision refers to the ideal state you would like to achieve in this important category. Ask yourself: How do you want this area of your life to feel? What do you want it to look like? What do you want to be doing on a consistent basis? Clearly describe your ideal Vision.

1) My stable, love relationships get deeper every year, with an open mind and a core connection that withstands everything. Our love allows us to be together and apart, knowing they are both right when they are. We respect and admire each other, we respect each other and our truth, transparency, and authenticity are air clear. We communicate peacefully. We have an agreed communication style and easily handle disagreements.

2) My needs are not my partner’s needs, and her needs are not mine. We put ourselves first and each other second, children, other family members, friends, the world. I am my first priority, my partner is her first priority and we are each other’s second priority. Everything else comes after. We take time to be together, cultivate the relationship and deepen or relationships. We have weekly quality time and love every moment of it. We are on the same side and respect each other’s beliefs. We have a game plan, similar visions and the desire to work on the same project of life, we share the same friends, our families get along and we work together to raise a family, a community and a life together.

3) We learn, grow, have fun together and enjoy each other daily. We think of what is best for the other and do everything I can to improve each other’s lives. We know deep int he core of our being and knowing and feeling and loving that we are meant for each other for the long run, that we are made for each other, that we are built for each other and that inside of us the core of our being keeps us united from before we met till after we die.

4) We play, we go on adventures, we share, the deepest fears and visions, we flow together, we bring things into our lives and relationships that will excite us, energize us and make us feel alive in love. People see us and comment on how happy we look together.

5) We have amazing sex, can talk endlessly, crack eachother up, ara amazed by eacho thers greatness, have no issues with each others pain body or shadows, laugh about ourselves with each other, feel respected, feel appreciated, feel honored.

Love Relationships Purpose

Your Purpose refers to the compelling reasons behind what you want in this category. What energizes you? What empowers you to take action? What motivates you to achieve your Vision? Describe WHY you want to make the most out of this area of your life?

1) We want our lives to be fulfilled. We want to glow, we want to excel, we want to feel nurtured, taken care of, happy, joyful. We want to feel supported, so we can go out there and make good things happen in the world. We want to vibrate possibility, we want to hold hands, face in the same direction, look forward together, experience the world in the company of our beloved.

2) We want each other to remind the divine in ourselves, each other and around us. We want to get everything we want from life and share with our tribe and community. We want to have a team that will uplift us and uplifts others.

Love Relationships Strategy

Your Strategy refers to the specific actions that will get you from where you are now to where you want to be. How will you bring your vision into reality? Ask yourself what kind of positive habits, attitudes and action steps you can implement. What’s the RECIPE for the Vision you want to create?

1) We are conscious, listen to each other, find time for physical intimacy, support other people and never argue in front of other people or bring things up with other people before checking in with each other. We are effective communicators, on the same page, who demonstrate love for each other. We share easy, open and honestly, our communication is effective, even with intense feelings, we create space where we can open up and be free to share our fantasies, fears, anger, sadness, shame, desires, needs, complain, without fear that we will be attached, lectured, shamed, complain or withdraw.

2) We don’t expect our partner to agree or enjoy everything we think, say and do, but we trust, respect and accept our self-expression and our speaking up. We pay attention to our partner, we focus on them, when they walk into our space, we stop and check in, we create space for them to check in. We train our minds to be connected and tapped into each other.

3) We express appreciation constantly, every day we share what we love and appreciate about them. We tell each other what and why we love about each other. Define the things that we love about each other, we share the top things we love about each other, we get in touch with those things to remember how happy we are that they are in your life. We let them know this. We always give more compliments than complaints. Love and support, offer feedback, kindly. We handle disagreements peacefully, our fights are done intelligently. We do not argue when we are in a rage, the first one that comes down to peace is the hero. When we disagree, we are still for each other. We are solution oriented, not emotionally indulgent. We give each other space to cool down. We say sorry when we mean it.

4) We demonstrate our love for each other. We act on our passion, desire, and romance, they are habits we express on words and deeds, we plan romantic and sexy times, we are affectionate, we do special things for each other spontaneously. We learn what we want from each other, what we need, what we expect, what we hope. We are committed to spending sacred time together, connection rituals and ceremonies. We work on ourselves, together and independently, we share how we are growing, we date, we spend time together, grown-up time, divine time. Our sex life is healthy, easy, fun, playful, deep, passionate, energizing, inspiring, invigorating. As we have love dates we also have work dates, we plan time to work together on our shared projects. We travel with time, take retreats and spend time envisioning what we are creating.

5) We keep our love live exiting, we keep sex consciously, we plan it out, we invite what we want, create what we want, allow ourselves to get what we want, we dress to thrill each other, learn to massage each other, learn about each other special spots, how we like to be touched, how we get turned on, we surrender and take each other, responsibly, exciting, passionate, love, connection, depth. We travel consistently, spend time in nature and time with friends, we create music together, we train together, have healthy habits together, healthy meals, we are there in the best and worst times. We make it to another dimension, we explore more than we could ever have imagined and live an eternal life in connection. We have a clear idea of what we want to build together, we agree on how to parent our children and how to be healthy and fit, we talk about what we want to do, where we want to live and what we want our daily life to look like. We agree on finances, birthing, raising children and taking care of our families. We believe in each other’s projects.

Focusing on New Empowering Beliefs

At the end of the homework we were asked to answer the following question:

What limiting BELIEFS did you discover? What are your new empowering beliefs?

I can find the love of my life, the relationship that will last forever. My strategy is to work on myself on the daily, openly allowing my love relationship to come to me. My actions reflect the space I have for my love life. I am committed to spending time and energy on my partners. I have let go of beliefs that hold me back from this love relationship. My relationship will last, it will be safe, I will be able to attract it and hold it, care for it. I was born to love and be loved, there are amazing trustworthy people out there and more than one is perfect for me. The extraordinary love relationship I want is on its way, I am worthy and deserving. I am clear on the type of relationship I want. I am committed to put time and effort into my love life, to take care of myself and make time to take care of my lover. I have an agreat expectation, I have the right mood and the desire to have fun dating, meeting people, and creating connections. I take care of my body mind spirit emotions and talk to people to create connections. I cultivate and express my masculine and feminine sides, I nurture my sensual, sexual and spiritual selves. I am fully actualized. I put effort and consciousness in creating this amazing relationship.

• Bruno Treves