This is the third week of my Lifebook experience. This is my chapter on parenting.

Parenting Premise

Your Premise refers to the foundational beliefs you hold about this category. What do you believe? What deeply held beliefs are shaping your life? Are your beliefs empowering? Do they move you at a deep level or are they holding you back? What is your Premise for this area of your life, or what would you like it to be?

1) More than ever, I feel clear on when I want to have children and how I would rise them.

2) Having a child and rising one is a conscious choice that I will make when I am ready.

3) No one knows how I should raise my children. It is up to me to decide what is best for them.

4) There is no reason for me to have a child now. I will know and do it when I am ready.

Parenting Vision

Your Vision refers to the ideal state you would like to achieve in this important category. Ask yourself: How do you want this area of your life to feel? What do you want it to look like? What do you want to be doing on a consistent basis? Clearly describe your ideal Vision.

1) I only have children with people I love and feel a deep spiritual connection with. My spouses and/or co-parents are people I respect, value, admire. These people and I have the same vision of our children and know how to communicate peacefully and efficiently.

2) My children live with me until they are ready to live alone. They are raised by me and people I trust deeply. They engage with me in the ways they feel called to. I offer them opportunities.

3) My children love me for who I am, not for what I do. They feel connected with me and appreciate the life they have. They are excited and passionate about life in their own ways.

4) My children practice being self-sufficient and helping others. They know self-care like pros. They know what is good and bad, best and worse. They chose wisely and accept the downfalls.

5) My children are happy, healthy, independent and passionate.

Parenting Purpose

Your Purpose refers to the compelling reasons behind what you want in this category. What energizes you? What empowers you to take action? What motivates you to achieve your Vision? Describe WHY you want to make the most out of this area of your life?

1) Children are a huge responsibility. They have a huge impact on my life and the world. This is why I am waiting until I feel ready to have a child and know who I want to raise children with

2) My children and me having children is a benefit to me, them and everyone in the universe. My children improve society, bring balance to the force, uplift humanity and care for life.

3) Becoming a father might be in my cards. If I am going to do it, I will do it right.

Parenting Strategy

Your Strategy refers to the specific actions that will get you from where you are now to where you want to be. How will you bring your vision into reality? Ask yourself what kind of positive habits, attitudes and action steps you can implement. What’s the RECIPE for the Vision you want to create?

1) I will continue to take care of myself, to become clear and centered. I will work on myself to become a better person and potentially an excellent father.

2) I will patiently wait, and maybe look, for the right person to raise children with. Once I meet her, I shall nurture a beautiful relationship filled with trust, inspiration, passion, and support. We will first make sure we are right for each other long term. Then we will make sure we have the same needs and desires regarding parenting. We will write down on Lifebook for parenting and be sure we have a 99% match on our premise, vision, purpose, and strategy.

3) Once the right partner and I are matched and in harmony with everything, we will make sure that we are both ready to have children and that we are confident we can support them for life.

4) Before having a child we’ll both be sure to clean up our karma and put things in place. We will do a cleanse and prime up our bodies, mind, hearts, and spirits to receive our child. We will make sure that we have a handful of years to raise our kids peacefully and mindfully, with all the care and resources they will need to live a happy, healthy, independent and passionate life.

5) We will prepare for the pregnancy, home-birth and the first few years of caretaking. We’ll be prepared as best as we can. Without stressing or overdoing it. We will enjoy the entire process.

Focusing on New Empowering Beliefs

At the end of the homework we were asked to answer the following question:

What limiting BELIEFS did you discover? What are your new empowering beliefs?

I used to think that I wasn’t meant to have a child. Now I know I have been careful this whole time, making sure I was fully ready to be a father. Now I know I can, I know I’ll be great at it, and know who I am waiting for to do it with.

• Bruno Treves